Did you know that you flirt with other men? That's right. The only difference present is that flirting with guys isn't sexual in nature. In fact, flirting doesn't need to be sexual at all. Humans, just like most other mammals, play together to establish relationships - both sexual and platonic. Naturally, you will 'flirt' with other guys all the time when you make fun of them, share stories or have a laugh except you do it in a way that fosters camaraderie.

With every person that I am a friend to, every person I am going to be friends with and every female that I am more than friends with or am going to be more than friends with, I flirt. I flirt because I enjoy playing with someone and playing equals having fun. Fun equals comfort and comfort equals "I want to know you better". This works well for all parties involved.

Last Friday night, I headed out with a few guys in the city. One of the problems we had was guys getting rejected at the door. The other problem a lot of guys had was bailing out of sets too early. Believe it or not the two are actually related, and odds are if you have trouble getting into clubs you are also going to have trouble getting shot down by women. How is this so? I'll explain.

Friday night at a nightclub is a pretty happening place, and truth be known bouncers like to make it difficult for guys to get in. How many of you have experienced these scenarios?

There is a large amount of pickup hype that flies around the Internet. Some of it is good, some of it is bad, some of it is amazing, and some of it is seriously misguided.

One of the pickup concepts that fall way short of the mark in terms of REAL psychology is the concept of the 'Alpha Male'. The term comes up so frequently in pickup lingo, that it's easy to assume that everybody knows what this means, and it's even easier to presume that the concept of Alpha Male is a simple and uncontested fact.

Picture yourself in a bar or club, in front of you is a beautiful women you have been talking to for the last two hours. She is obviously interested in you, the time seems right to ask her home but you freeze up. Why? Perhaps you're concerned about being rejected after investing 2 hours, perhaps you're worried she'll be offended and look at you like you're a pervert, perhaps you're worried she'll laugh at you. Whatever the reason, many men struggle at this point ad consequently lose out of a lot of women they could have had.

Recently one of the SOA students asked a question about this on our members only forum, and I thought I would share some of the students responses to the question as well as my own at the end.

The Following is a recent correspondence I had with a man who was having trouble maintaining a casual sex relationship with a woman without her getting attached.


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Hey Damien,

Recently ive been having a casual with a girl its been roughly around 2 months into it and so far its been good, cept sometimes she decides to leave marks on me that my boss gets to ask me about. Anyways recently i have noticed certain things with her when it comes to our sexual endevours and indicate to me she is starting to get attached for example