When you meet a girl and get her number, it’s easy to get caught up in the idea of a future romance together.

You really liked her and she seemed to like you too so the possibility of romance and intimacy seems highly likely at that time.

Then you call or text her to set up a date and things don’t always turn out as well as you hoped they would as you find it difficult to get her to agree to meet up with you.

Before long, your hopes of romance are dashed and feelings of anger towards women and/or insecurities about yourself may emerge.

This is the point where many guys often give up on pickup and dating if it happens enough times.

Frustrated men walk off into the horizon shouting "women are evil!" or "I'm just not cool enough!" or "pickup doesn't work!" or some combination of all three.

Interestingly, none of those statements are even close to being true:

Hollywood has done a lot to contribute to our views of how love works, and what we should expect from a partner who supposedly loves us. Most of us have very personal views on what love is, but scientists are getting ever closer to clearly defining the chemical processes that occur inside our bodies when we fall in love with someone. HINT: It’s alarmingly similar to a Cocaine high

I’m not going to debate today how you know if someone is right for you, or how to tell if a woman loves you, or who should say the ‘L’ word first. Today I want to talk about love as a very dangerous and possibly life-destroying habit that many men and women go blissfully through life without ever paying any attention to.

Put your hand up right now if you know someone who wasted years of their lives clearly dating someone that was ruining their lives, but they stuck in the relationship because of love. Put your other hand up if you’ve been guilty of this yourself?