Without a clear idea on how to date properly and what a good date should look like, many guys struggle when it comes to taking girls on dates. As a day game guy (I only pickup women during the day), I had no choice but to get good at dating. It's an essential part of my seduction process and so I forced myself to go on countless amounts of dates no matter how badly the previous date or dates went. It took a while, but eventually I started to work out how to enjoy dating and now I'm at the point were I absolutely LOVE dating.
In this article I'm going to focus on how you should logistically
plan and lead your date to give you the best chance of success and
to make things more interesting and enjoyable for you and her.
STEP ONE - BRING HER INTO YOUR WORLD
Bring her into your world by doing things that you enjoy and are
interested in. Be creative here and think of various ways to
achieve this. For example, if you like ice-skating then take her
ice-skating. If you really want to try indoor rock-climbing then
take her indoor rock-climbing. If you love books, take her to your
favourite bookshops. Simple. Remember, you're not trying to impress
her, you doing what you enjoy it and seeing how she handles it.
Assume for now that what you want to do, is what she wants to do.
STEP TWO - BOUNCE HER TOWARDS SEX LOCATION
After the initial activity, assuming you are having fun and
enjoying each other's company, move things forward and test her
compliance by attempting to bounce her towards the sex location
(i.e. your apartment). A nice cafe or bar relatively close to your
place is ideal for this. It's important to oversell the new
location to make it easy for her to comply. Lead strongly as well -
be like "let's go" rather than "do you want come?". Continue
bringing her into your world during this step by being friendly
with all the staff at the places you are a regular at (social proof
is POWERFUL and further brings her into your world).
STEP THREE - BOUNCE HER TO SEX LOCATION
After having food or drink at the location near your apartment and
continuing to enjoy each others company, it's time to get her back
to your place. Make this seem like it's not a big deal and expect
her to say yes. It's recommended that you develop an effective
routine to use here that matches your personality and suits the
situation whether it's "let's go have a quick drink" or "I have to
show you my awesome fish tank. let's go". Develop and use whatever
works best for you.
STEP FOUR - SEAL THE DEAL
Once you get her back to your place, be chill and have fun. Most of
the hard work has already been done and the rest should be easy.
Make her comfortable by show her around your place or showing her
something interesting and then sit down and have a drink together.
Get close to each other and make out with her. The rest should
AN EXAMPLE OF WHAT YOUR DATES SHOULD LOOK LIKE
Here's an example of what the above steps should look like in a
real life situation.
1. Bring Her Into Your World
You invite her to a Saturday morning Salsa class with you. As a
regular to this class you dance well and have fun. She has fun too.
After the class you chat with and are friendly with all the
instructors and some of the students you come into contact with and
introduce your date to many of them.
2. Bounce Her Towards Sex Location
As you leave the dancing school with your date, you tell her about
your favourite pizza place (which happens to be near your
apartment). You take her there and have fun together.
3. Bounce To Sex Location
After having fun at the pizza place and enjoying each other's
company, you announce that you feel like having a glass of wine on
your balcony. You grab her hand and say "let's go."
4. Seal The Deal
After getting her to your apartment, you sit on the balcony and
have a drink together. You get close to each other and make out.
The rest happens naturally.
30 DAY CHALLENGE
To ensure you take a major step towards becoming excellent at
dating, set up as many dates as possible (aim for at least 3 dates
a week) and practice the above recommendations by doing the
following 30 Day Challenges.
1. Week One: Bring Her Into Your World
For the first week all you have to do is plan and execute a date
that is something you want to do and brings her into your world
2. Week Two: Bounce Her Towards Sex Location
In the second week,
your focus is bringing her into your world and then attempt to
bounce her towards the sex location e.g. a café or bar near your
3. Week Three: Bounce Her To Sex Location
In the third week, repeat
the earlier week's challenges and take it one step further by
attempting to bounce her to your apartment / sex location. You may
get some resistance here but be firm and give it your best shot.
4. Week Four: Seal The Deal
In the fourth week, you want to put all
the above steps together and attempt to be intimate. Resistance may
occur but be firm and at try for what you want.
Dates can be fun and interesting when done properly. By following a
clear plan and leading a date successfully you can make them a lot
more fun and dramatically increase your chances of intimacy. Follow
the above advice and dating success is yours.