So you want to know how to get a girl to like you?
Despite the massive amount of archaeological evidence to the contrary, when us men think back to the good old days of our stone-age forefathers we imagine a time when a furry knuckled ape-man saw a cute furry knuckled ape-woman and getting her to like him was as simple as beating her over the head with a large baseball bat shaped piece of wood, then dragging her back to his cave. Fortunately for the women of the world such behaviour is generally frowned upon in modern society, and instead the men of society feel rather more like hitting themselves over the head with a baseball bat in sheer frustration trying to win the affections of a (hopefully) unfurry knuckled woman.
So perhaps you have a particular girl in mind as you read this, or perhaps you are wondering how to get girls to like you more in general.
The bad news is that there isn't a magic button hidden somewhere on the female body. Nor is there a magic dance a man can do to get a girl to like him. There is no way to make every woman you come into contact with want to be with you. The good news, however, is that you can significantly tip the odds in your favor. In this article, I'd like to offer you 5 tips for how to get a girl to like you.
1) Smell Good
Women have a far more sensitive sense of smell than their male counterparts. Whether or not a woman finds you sexually attractive, a great cologne can be enough to cause a woman to stand up, pay attention, and want to get closer to you.
2) Share Passions
Find something that both you and her are passionate about. It could be sport, yoga, travel, photography, self-improvement, surfing, or Titmice (yes they exist). If you can both be passionate and excited about something together, she will feel an instant affinity for you. I can already hear you asking 'what if we don't have any shared passions?', to which I have to ask you 'what do you want to be around her for then?'. Few things are more amazing than finding a woman who is passionate about the same things you are, and few things are more amazing to a woman than finding a man who is passionate about the same things she is.
3) Demonstrate Honesty
The world is full of posers, players, and the word on the street is; 'Men can't be trusted'. You shouldn't be suprised however, as men have certainly played their role in earning this reputation. Women know well how rare honest men are. Being honest to a woman means not giving mixed messages, not pretending to be something you aren't, and not letting her 'believe what she chooses to believe'. Women can sense when a man is being completely honest with her, are you nervous around her? Let her know that her presence makes you slightly nervous and you'd be amazed at how well women will respond to such radical honesty.
4) Don't Accept Bad Behaviour
If a woman treats you in a way you don't like, then make it known, or walk away. Men often accuse women of being 'bitchy' or 'rude', but yet they continue to put up with it simply because of a crush they may have on the woman. The truth is that a woman will feel nothing but contempt for a man who lets her treat him like crap. If you really want to get a girl to like you and to respect you, then you must be willing to tell her what your boundaries are. If you tell a girl that you aren't prepared to be her personal chauffeur, and she refuses to see you again then I promise you from the bottom of my heart, it's for the best. You don't have to be an asshole in order to avoid being trapped in the land of 'nice guy', but you do have to be willing to enforce some of your own rules and boundaries.
5) Tell Her You Like Her
This sounds like the obvious, but in my years of experience most men try to avoid this at all cost in order to seem aloof and cool. It has been shown time and again that we feel compelled to like people who like us, it is flattering and opens our minds to the idea of liking the other person back. This point also ties back to the idea of being honest. Most girls you meet will tell you that men have a history of trying to 'hide' the fact that they like them. Instead of joining the herd, try owning up to the fact and watch a woman's body language open up as you surprise her with your direct honesty.
These points are merely the start to getting a girl to like you. Many of them seem like common sense, but in my years as an attraction coach, rarely do I witness a man who actually puts them into practice.