Those of you who know me well know that I rarely do any physical escalation in clubs. They also know that I routinely walk out of clubs with women to take them home. I do this entirely through verbal sexual escalation. I get women to say they’re going to have sex with me (or something close to it) before we ever set foot out of the venue.
This often sits in stark contrast to the commonly held community belief that in-club physical escalation (touching of sensitive areas, kissing etc) is an absolute requirement to get a woman into bed. The reality, however, is that it can be (and in most circumstances IS) much easier to talk or even ‘text’ your way into her bedroom without ever having to feel that awkward ‘do I kiss her now?’ moment.
I recently ran into a woman at the Ivy (a stunning olive skinned brunette with breasts made for motorboating, and a behind made for.. well use your imagination). Unfortunately, since my friends were heading up to the Ivy Pool, I only had about 5 minutes with her which was just enough time to get some good flirting in and exchange numbers.
The interaction went like this:
DJ: I walk over to the Hot Brunette (HB) and say “Hey there, how’s your night going”
HB: “It’s going great thanks”
DJ: “What are you celebrating?”
HB: ” Nothing, just here with friends”
DJ: “Bullshit, you’re celebrating Friday!”
HB: “You’re right we totally are, I like your hat” Then takes it and puts it on her head
DJ: “Oh yeah, borrow my hat, you’re welcome” rolls eyes playfully
HB: “I didn’t ask hehe, I like this hat on you it goes well with your vest”
DJ: “Thanks, I really like your shoes… they totally accentuate your great boobs”
HB: laughs “thanks, I’ll try to wear them more often”
*2 minuts of mindless banter*
DJ: “I hate to say this, but my friends are leaving the club and I have to go with them, but I’d like to see where this conversation leads another time, it was just starting to get a bit saucy”
HB: “Sounds fun”
We then exchange numbers and I kiss her on the cheek goodbye.
I’d like to bring attention to the fact that I started talking sexually within a few minutes of entering the set. I wasn’t there to pretend to be anything BUT a guy who’s talking to a hot chick he’d like to shag. However I was also making sure not to be sleazy or desperate, so I made sure to wrap it all up in playful humour. It’s really important to note that you can usually get away with saying ANYTHING you want to a woman so long as you wrap it up with humour and wit.
The next day, I knew that I wanted to try and continue on where we left off, so I decided to carry on the conversation in sms to see if I couldn’t escalate things to the point I wanted to escalate them in the club, that way I wouldn’t have to make a date with her not yet knowing how it would end, and potentially waste an evening with a woman who isn’t interested in casual sex.
The sms conversation went as follows:
DJ: Hey there miss hat stealer, did those magnificent um.. shoes of your get any more compliments?
I used the key pieces of flirting/sexual information from our interaction to show her that I remembered her well, to let her know who I was without having to spell it out, and to enable me to pick up where we left off
HB: Haha, hey there, NO! You were the only one observant enough of my great “shoes”
DJ: Well good thing for you I didn’t have more time in the club with you… the mind boggles at what might have happened
Here I begin pushing her towards the sexual spectrum again to see how she responds
HB: Is that so? Well we wouldn’t want that now would we?
She didn’t change the topic, so I can push harder
DJ: That almost sounds like a challenge! That could get you into a lot of trouble.
HB: Me?? I never get into trouble! I’m a good girl… an Angel if you will…
DJ: Of course, that’s the first thing I noticed about you. I’m totally a virgin myself, I wouldn’t know what crazy sex was if it came up and spanked me on the ass
I use some sexual terms and see how she responds
HB: O rite, you just walk up to random girls in clubs in order to help preserve their virginity?
DJ: Yeah you know, guys really never think about sex… Okay I’m bad at lying, now stop teasing me and making me think naughty thoughts
HB: I somehow think that you need no assistance what so ever thinking naughty thoughts!
She is staying on the right topic, so I can push further
DJ: True.. I pretty much go there on autopilot these days
HB: So what movie reel is playing in that imagination of yours at the moment?
HOOKED! I know I have her on my wavelength, because she’s now curious to hear my sexy thoughts
DJ: Well, it’s very dark, your not wearing much clothing, and you’re using the lord’s name in vain a lot.
Try to avoid giving explicit sexual details to women unless you are already dirty talking to them in bed. Women have AMAZING imaginations, so leaving things subtle is always the best way to go
HB: Damn.. Well if I’m being grateful I’m not using it in vain am I?
DJ: Valid Point. I like the way you think
HB: I suspect you’d like the way I do a few things
I loved this response, it told me everything I needed to know to start challenging her to sex. I love challenging women to have sex with me, it makes the whole thing seem like their idea and makes me look a lot less needy
DJ: Prove it
HB: Is that a challenge?
And that’s the answer I was after, no more sexual talk required
DJ: Will you be out and about in the city tonight?
HB: Indeed I will be with a bunch of friends at Hotel Chambers. You?
DJ: I’ll be at a friend’s part at Ivy until midnight. Perhaps we can cross paths after that?
HB: Maybe… Tho I can’t make promises about tonight as I’m the one who organized the outing, so I might not be able to leave early. But we’ll see.
DJ: Well, that’s no big drama, it’s more fun to just wing it and see where the night takes us (with some gentle prodding in a certain direction)
HB: I like the sound of that
I would put the likelihood of our meeting the next night at about 90%
That is more or less how I would have continued the conversation IN THE CLUB had I not had to leave early.
However since this chat took place via SMS, you can see how powerful it can be to simply verbally escalate. Women LOVE subtlety, and a make out in a club is neither subtle, or suave, and women will just remember you as the random guy they hooked up with rather than the mysterious seducer.
Verbally escalating also works MUCH better for high ranking, famous, conservative, image conscious or women that just don’t like to be touched because you can get them into bed without ever risking tarnishing their reputation publicly. Yes this has been tried and tested many times.
Enjoy responsibly! ;PRead More