Let’s be real: online dating is not gender neutral. If you’re a heterosexual male diving into the wild world of digital dates, there are rules to follow, and it’s often very difficult to figure out exactly what those are. As a rule, women are the receivers of the emails, chat invitations, nudges, and winks, and men need to initiate. Yet for many, it often feels like they’re punished if they do come on strong, and punished if they don’t make it obvious that they’re interested. In either case, rejection lurks around every digital communication.
So what’s a single guy to do? Dive in, dust off any rejection, and use a little online dating savvy. The internet is a veritable playground for saucy singles, teeming with eligible dates that are actively seeking companionship. These sites do a stellar job of offering a bevy of tools to help break the barriers of connection, from “pokes” to anonymous email, and voice mails to instant chat. What these sites can’t do is guarantee the lady of your choice will reciprocate in kind. For that, you need to be aware of what women are looking for as they peruse your profile and messages.Want the inside scoop into what women want in online dating? Look no further than the list below.
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I have always viewed my life as a journey… At times I am living it large and it is an epic movie length adventure, and at other times, I become lazy and boring and it becomes like a Twitter post. Nevertheless, I try my hardest at all times to be on a journey to somewhere. This journey includes but by no means is limited to the friends I surround myself with, the tough decisions I make, and the activities I regularly engage in to name a few. All these factors come together to form Damien D – my sense of self and who I truly am.
In my past I have for reasons I still can’t logically make sense of, changed the course of my journey because there was a woman around. This could be subtle such as skipping the gym a couple of times to hang out with her more, or life changing such as putting my life purpose on hold to please her. Very often, I would make very small changes to my life journey almost from the first date with a woman – this may be for example; I would take her on a date somewhere that I would never normally go myself, simply because I wanted to impress her, or make her think that I was… Read more »
I remember when I first got involved in the attraction community in 2004. A lot of things have changed in the industry, and pretty much all of them for the better. Old fashioned mindsets are being formatted into more accurate and morally sound views and processes. The Majority of men I talk to now want to stop being fake when they approach women, and there is a massive shift to being more genuine and honest.
One of the mantras being shouted at us back then, and shouted at most guys still today is “looks don’t matter”, and any time anyone stepped up to question it, they were quickly shoved in the “limiting belief” box. But we all feel it deep down inside, we all know that somewhere along the line looks count for something, but what?
On the one hand, we clearly see women fawning over cute guys all the time, on the other we see lots of unattractive guys with stunning women wherever we look. So what gives?
Most people think foreplay is that brief moment in the bedroom between that ‘special kiss’ and sexual penetration. They think that a little bit of quality ‘necking’, a brief nibble on the ear and perhaps a few ‘sweet nothings’ is what constitutes all the moves required to master the fine art of ‘getting her in the mood’. The reality is, a huge part of a woman’s arousal occurs in her mind, and you can start arousing this part of her long before you first set foot in the bedroom.
Rather than bore you with a bunch of useless theory to get my point across, I want to share with you all an old favourite foreplay process of mine. (not to be used the first time you sleep with a woman, ideally the 2nd or 3rd time, if she knows you too well, some of the magic will be lost)
In 1774, an as yet relatively unknown German author wrote a book entitled “The Sorrows of Young Werther” about a young man who falls in love with a woman he cannot have, and while recovering from a broken heart falls into a spiral of despair eventually ending with his taking his own life. This book touched the hearts of men and women on such a deep level that it spawned the first ever recorded spate of ‘copycat suicides’ in which young people all over Europe took their own lives in the name of love inspired by Young Werther.
The authors name was Goethe, and it even touched Napoleon Bonaparte so deeply that he carried a copy of the book with him throughout Egypt and wrote a soliloquy in Werther’s style.
There is a large amount of attraction hype that flies around the Internet. Some of it is good, some of it is bad, some of it is amazing, and some of it is seriously misguided.
One of the attraction concepts that fall way short of the mark in terms of REAL psychology is the concept of the ‘Alpha Male’. The term comes up so frequently in pickup lingo, that it’s easy to assume that everybody knows what this means, and it’s even easier to presume that the concept of Alpha Male is a simple and uncontested fact.
The first thing I want to say is that ‘Alpha Male’ has completely different contexts from one animal species to another.
The Second thing I want to state is the simple fact that NOBODY on the planet knows for sure what a human alpha male really is. However, we currently have some pretty good reasons to believe we know what it IS NOT.